Healing your ancestral wounds to free you and your future
Culturally sensitive, intergenerationally focused mental health support for all people — available online across Australia and New Zealand.
Registered therapeutic practitioner
Trauma-informed practice
South Asian cultural specialisation
Online — Australia & New Zealand
Intergenerational identity, remembered and redefined
The patterns you carry weren't born with you.
At Ancestral Unlearning, we offer culturally sensitive and intergenerationally focused mental health support for all people. Whether you're carrying the silent weight of generational expectations or seeking a space to be seen and heard, we are here to walk with you toward healing, voice, and belonging.
How we work together
Support for where you actually are
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Mental health therapy
Individual, couple, and family therapy drawing on attachment, nervous system healing, and family systems frameworks.
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Workshops & group work
Transformative group experiences for people from South Asian backgrounds navigating tradition, migration, and modern identity.
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Cultural consultation
Consultation for legal and allied health professionals seeking insight into complex South Asian cultural dynamics.
The workbook is coming.
A culturally grounded guide for South Asian individuals and families ready to understand what has been passed down — and begin to change it.
Pricing
Main services
Individual
One-to-one session
$150 AUD
per hour
Couples
Two-person session
$170 AUD
per hour
Family
Family session
$200 AUD
per hour
All sessions conducted online. Available across Australia and New Zealand. Start with a free 20-minute conversation — no commitment required.
The first step is often the hardest one.
A free 20-minute conversation — no commitment, just a chance to connect.
About
Healing didn't start with you. But it can continue through you.
This practice was built for people who grew up in homes where love was complicated — and who are ready to understand why.
The story
Why I built this practice
As I have moved through life, understanding its complexities have become increasingly challenging. My exploration of my identity as an Indian person has led me to confront a range of emotions, including confusion, overwhelm, and a sense of disconnection.
Growing up in Aotearoa, raised by parents who shared this heritage, I found myself with questions that seemed to have no answers. As I delved deeper into the stories of my ancestors, I began to realise that my experiences were not a product of only my own journey — and recognising what is happening as the transmission of trauma has become not a burden but a relief and opportunity for my own healing and growth.
Working as a therapeutic practitioner, I have been met in sessions with many South Asian couples and individuals struggling to create lasting change. Meeting their ancestors and understanding the cultural nuances that shape their reality has created profound shifts — in ways they never knew possible.
Specialisations
Intergenerational traumaSouth Asian dynamicsAttachment patternsFamily systemsNervous system healingCultural identityReparenting
Sessions & pricing
Individual
$150 AUD
per hour
Couples
$170 AUD
per hour
Family
$200 AUD
per hour
Online · Australia & New Zealand 0432 509 601 · past2parent@gmail.com
"You don't have to abandon your community to heal. In fact, healing requires you to embrace it."
Ready to begin?
Start with a free 20-minute conversation — no commitment required.
Understanding intergenerational trauma
The wounds you carry may not have started with you
Most people spend years trying to fix themselves — not realising that what they're living with was passed down long before they arrived.
What it is
What is intergenerational trauma?
Intergenerational trauma refers to the way that unresolved emotional pain, stress responses, and survival patterns are transmitted from one generation to the next. When a parent has experienced significant trauma — war, displacement, abuse, cultural persecution, migration, loss — and that trauma has never been processed, it doesn't disappear. It lives in the body, in the emotional climate of the home, in the things that are never spoken about. Children absorb all of this — not consciously, but deeply.
This is why intergenerational trauma so often goes unrecognised. It doesn't announce itself. It simply feels like who you are.
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It feels like personality
Anxiety, people-pleasing, emotional numbness — these feel like character traits, not inherited responses to danger.
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It was never named
In many families — especially collectivist or immigrant families — emotional pain is not discussed. What is unnamed cannot be examined.
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It feels normal
When a pattern has existed across generations, it becomes the water you swim in. There is no reference point for anything different.
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No one connects the dots
Without a culturally aware lens, the connection between past and present is never made visible.
How it shows up
How intergenerational trauma may be showing up in your life
In yourself
A chronic sense of not being enough — no matter what you achieve
Anxiety with no clear cause, or a constant low-level feeling of dread
Emotional numbness — difficulty feeling joy or ease even when life is going well
Intense guilt when you prioritise your own needs or rest
Shame that feels older than your own experiences
In relationships
Anxious attachment — fear of abandonment, difficulty trusting
People-pleasing and inability to say no without overwhelming guilt
Difficulty receiving care or love without suspicion or discomfort
Repeating the same relationship dynamics despite choosing different partners
Feeling responsible for other people's emotional states
In family dynamics
Being the peacekeeper or emotional caretaker of the family
Boundaries feeling impossible — love and obligation as the same thing
Unspoken rules about which emotions are acceptable
Identity formed around what the family needed, not who you are
Noticing the same patterns repeating in your own parenting
The awareness gap
Why most people have no idea this is happening
Intergenerational trauma is one of the most under-recognised forces shaping human experience — not because it is rare, but because it is invisible by nature. By the time it reaches you, it has already been normalised across one, two, or three generations.
The symptoms feel personal, not historical. Anxiety and relationship difficulties are understood as individual struggles — rarely as the downstream effects of a family's unprocessed history.
Cultural and family silence seals it in. In many communities, speaking about emotional pain is not the norm. What is never spoken of is never examined. The silence itself becomes part of the inheritance.
The nervous system mistakes familiarity for safety. Inherited patterns of anxiety or emotional suppression feel like home — which makes them extraordinarily difficult to recognise as patterns at all.
It requires a different kind of looking. Understanding intergenerational trauma means asking not just "what happened to me?" but "what happened to the people who raised me?"
The possibility of change
Awareness is where healing begins
The most important thing to understand about intergenerational trauma is this: the fact that it was passed down does not mean it has to keep going. When you begin to see your struggles not as personal failings but as inherited responses to experiences you didn't live through yourself, something shifts. The shame loosens. Compassion becomes possible.
This is the work of ancestral unlearning — not erasing where you came from, but understanding it clearly enough to choose, consciously, what you carry forward and what you gently set down.
Coming soon — register below to be first to know when the workbook is available.
The workbook
Pre-order — release date coming soon
Breaking the Cycle
A culturally grounded, therapeutically informed guide for South Asian individuals and families ready to understand — and begin to change — what has been passed down.
Breaking the Cycle
Healing intergenerational trauma
Ancestral Unlearning
About the workbook
This workbook is with you for a reason.
Like many of us, you have probably spent years trying to decode the behaviours, the reactions, the interactions and the connections — or lack of — in your family. Maybe you have become a parent who is now finding themselves questioning how they were parented, feeling a strong conviction to do it differently, but no matter how hard you try you always wind up mid-reaction thinking: where did that come from?
This workbook was created specifically for South Asian individuals and families navigating the impact of intergenerational trauma. It draws on therapeutic frameworks around attachment, nervous system healing, and family systems — and grounds them in the cultural realities that so many generic resources fail to name.
Working as a therapeutic practitioner, I have been met in sessions with many South Asian couples and individuals struggling to create lasting change. Meeting their ancestors and understanding the cultural nuances that shape their reality created profound shifts — in ways they never knew possible.
"You don't have to abandon your community to heal. In fact, healing requires you to embrace it."
Who this is for
You might find yourself here if...
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Breaking the parenting cycle
You're a parent who wants to do it differently but keeps finding yourself repeating patterns you swore you wouldn't.
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Repeating relationship patterns
Your relationships follow familiar, painful dynamics and you can't understand why — no matter how much work you do.
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Ready for change
You feel a deep pull toward change but don't know where to begin, or generic resources don't speak to your experience.
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Navigating cultural identity
You're South Asian and Western therapy has never quite understood the dynamics that have shaped your inner world.
How to use it
Working through this at your own pace
This workbook can be used alone or alongside therapy. The most important thing is that you feel safe enough to go at your own pace. There is no deadline here.
If you are working through this alone
Go at your own pace. Healing is time-based and cannot be rushed. Some sections may ask you to sit for days before you're ready to write.
You don't have to follow the order. Trust your instincts. If a section feels too heavy, move on and return later.
Have support around you. Let someone in your life know you're doing this work, even if you don't share the details.
Know when to seek more support. This workbook is a tool, not a replacement for therapy.
If you are working with a therapist
Use this as a companion. The workbook is designed to deepen and extend the work you're already doing in sessions.
Share what feels relevant. You don't need to bring every page to your therapist. Trust what feels important to explore further together.
Let it move at therapy's pace. If your therapist recommends pausing on a section, honour that.
It may open new doors. Exercises here may surface material worth bringing to your therapist.
Pre-order
Be among the first to receive the workbook
The workbook is currently in its final stages. Register your interest now and you'll be the first to know when it's available — with early access and a special pre-order offer.
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First notification when the workbook is released
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Exclusive pre-order pricing for early registrations
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A short, thoughtful welcome letter while you wait
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Access to free resources to begin the work now
Sessions available online across Australia and New Zealand. 0432 509 601 · past2parent@gmail.com
Register your interest
No payment required now. We'll be in touch as soon as the workbook is ready.
Your details are kept private and never shared.
Get in touch
The first step is often the hardest one.
No obligation, no pressure. Just an honest conversation about where you are and whether this feels like the right fit for you.
Before you reach out
You don't need to have the right words.
You don't need to fully understand what you're struggling with before you get in touch. You just need to decide that you're ready to look — and let the rest unfold from there.
All sessions are conducted online and are available to individuals across Australia and New Zealand.
Phone
0432 509 601
Email
past2parent@gmail.com
Pricing
Individual
One-to-one session
$150 AUD
per hour
Couples
$170 AUD
per hour
Family
$200 AUD
per hour
Availability
Monday to Saturday · 8:00 am – 8:00 pm Sundays · 12:00 noon – 8:00 pm
